What to Do if You Feel Called Out by My Podcast [ep.146]

26 Sep

I'm going to help you in today's episode to process those feelings, understand why you feel called out, listen to your subconscious mind, what it is trying to tell you, and use that information to make positive changes that bring you a step closer to your higher self. Are you ready? Let's go, baby!

Topics covered on What to Do if You Feel Called Out by My Podcast:

What do you do when you are triggered by a piece of content or feel called out?
The importance of moving forward from being called out.
How can discomfort be a catalyst for personal growth?
Why is self-reflection important when you are feeling called out?
Giving yourself grace and compassion during the growth process.
How can feeling called out be an opportunity for learning and improvement?
Taking actionable steps to address the behaviors or beliefs that made you feel called out.
Approaching personal growth with patience and small steps.
How can you commit to personal growth and take action towards your goals?

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"I want to congratulate you if you’re feeling uncomfortable. Because when we feel uncomfortable, that's when we really start to step forward into the reality that we desire." - Rebecca Haydon

"The content that resonates the most is often the content that can make the most significant impact on your life and business." - Rebecca Haydon

Transcription: Our AI tried its best, but expect a few quirky typos in the transcript. Embrace the imperfections and enjoy the read!

[00:00:00] Hello gorgeous lady, welcome back to Higher Self and I. Now this is a bit of a weird topic, one, for today, but it came to me the other morning when I was lying in bed, I got up quite early and I was just pondering on the business as I so very often do, and one of the things that came up was how And what to do when you are triggered by a piece of content or you feel called out.

[00:00:34] Now, I know my podcast calls a lot of people out in the best way. And I... I want to be the coach, and I want to be the business owner that tells you what to do if that is happening. I did say it was a bit of a weird concept, but I just thought it would be such a good podcast episode for you to actually understand and know what to do If that has happened, because I can connect with my ideal clients so well through me going through and being where you've been, which is mostly the content that I, that I write into, because I can connect with you so much, I can call back those feelings so very well because I was in that space for so long.

[00:01:26] But equally, I also know that I want you to move forward from that. I want you to move forward from being called out. I don't want you to be listening to the podcast and be like, Oh my god, she's speaking to me, this is exactly what I'm doing. Oh my god, she's, she can see me, it's like she's watching me in my bedroom or my office.

[00:01:46] But then never do anything with that. Because being called out, or, or being, feeling seen in a piece of content, or feeling, okay, triggered, that might not be the word that I use today. I like called out feels better But feeling called out feeling seen of the behaviors and the actions and the thoughts and the feelings that you currently don't want is Such a celebration to have because it means that you're aware It means that you're aware of that you're doing it And if you weren't aware I've now made you very aware, which is Part and parcel of my content strategy, if I'm honest.

[00:02:26] But I love speaking into where you're at, because when I make you aware of what's going on inside your business, or what you're doing, or the behaviors, or the beliefs, or the thoughts, or the feelings, when I make you aware of that, That means that you can move forwards. I'm doing it from the place of like, come on gal, we can do this, let's move through this together.

[00:02:49] So in today's podcast episode, I want to discuss what to do If you feel called out by my podcast or what [00:03:00] to do, if you feel called out by my stories or by my posts or by any other person that you follow, that you consume, that you, that you really have in your world. Because for me, I want to be the, the.

[00:03:18] The mentor, I want to be the model that helps you move through that, that, that doesn't do a podcast, and you go, Wow, that really, really resonated, oh my god, she can really understand me, but then never do anything with that. I want you to move forward, that's the, that's why I'm here, like, that's what I'm here to do, is for you to create the reality that you want, so.

[00:03:42] Let's, let's do this. Let's dive in today. These are the steps that I would take if I felt called out by a piece of content, if I felt seen by a piece of content and it happens to me to this day still, in whatever level of business that you're in. So, I know that it feels uncomfortable. That's the first thing.

[00:04:05] Like, I want you to give yourself grace that it feels uncomfortable to be called out. It feels uncomfortable that you may have behaviours that are not supporting your business growth at the moment. It feels uncomfortable to know that there might be a big belief that you need to work on in order to shed what you're currently working with.

[00:04:28] So, I just wanted to say, It's okay to feel uncomfortable, and I actually want you to congratulate that. I'm sure I've done a podcast episode on that. I want you to actually congratulate you feeling uncomfortable. Because when we feel uncomfortable, by God, that's when we move. That's when we shift. That's when we change.

[00:04:49] That's when we really start to step forward into the reality that we desire. We start taking different actions. We start thinking different thoughts. So I just want you... Party, party, party poppers. I just want you to celebrate the fact that you feel uncomfortable. Well done. It's the first step. And... What happens, all that's happening, is that I'm mirroring back a situation that's happening for you right now.

[00:05:21] And the way that I mirror that is, is usually very deep with inside you, because I was once where you are. Like I said, I can connect. To those stages of business, the stages that I speak to within my content, I can connect and mirror and reflect that back so deeply one, because I've been there too, because of the content strategy that I use and three, because I have so many clients going through the same thing, I have so much data around me that allows me to really understand what you're going through.

[00:05:56] And it allows me to mirror it back to you [00:06:00] to. To mirror back the aspects of your business, to mirror back the aspects of your belief system, to mirror back the aspects of your life that you may not want to confront, that you may not be ready to confront. And actually, you've turned the podcast on because you're here every Tuesday and I frickin love you for it, or Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, whenever you listen to it, you're here listening to the podcast and it might be something where you've gone, she's right, she's frickin right.

[00:06:31] She's done it again. How, how is she speaking to me this deeply again? And it's because I'm mirroring and reflecting back to you what's currently happening, which feels uncomfortable, right? It feels so uncomfortable. I remember this one piece of content sticks in my head so much, and I tell my clients all the time, and I cannot remember who it was that wrote it.

[00:06:56] It was just on my feed a couple of years ago, and there was a piece of content that said, Whoever has a podcast, why are you wasting all your time doing stories that last for 24 hours and then, kind of, that topic goes away and you never speak about it again? Why aren't you making a podcast episode about that?

[00:07:15] And I was like, oh my god, why aren't I making a podcast episode about all the stories that I'm putting out? And this was back in 2021. 2020 when frickin mini trainings were through the roof and everyone was doing 100 mini trainings a day. So I was doing a lot of mini trainings that could be podcast episodes and I remember feeling so called out by, by that piece of content and it was literally, I was like, that is so logistically easy.

[00:07:42] How have I not seen that? And that's what happens in a lot of my podcasts. I know that you, you listen and you're like, wow, yeah. She's right, and that feels much easier now for me to deal with. So, I want you to remember that discomfort is a sign of growth. Because what is discomfort? It's out of the comfort zone, baby.

[00:08:03] And if we're out of the comfort zone, the only other fucking zone that we need to be in is the growth zone. So, let's just have a little, like, moment to actually Remind yourself that if you are feeling con uh, called out, if you are feeling that, that mirror towards your life, and the, the behaviors that you may not want to confront, or the belief that you might not want to confront, or the strategies you might not want to confront, it's a sign of growth.

[00:08:33] It's a sign of growth. So, what to do next? First of all, celebrate. Done. Second is the self reflection. So, this is when you become really frickin self aware. And you've already become aware because I've either made you aware, or you were aware and I've confirmed it. You could be in two camps there. The second thing is the self reflection.

[00:08:58] So, when you feel [00:09:00] called out, or if you've listened to a podcast that's really got you like, Oh my god, like, that was so me, or, Wow, that now feels so big, or, Wow, like, I've really gotta do a lot of work now, she's... She's open fucking Pandora's box and it's all coming out in my head and we start to spiral and then we're like, Oh my god, what do I need to buy?

[00:09:19] Who do I need to invest in? What's gonna happen next? Oh my god. It only lasts for a while and then you revert back to the comfort zone anyway, but in that moment I actually want you to catch yourself and I want you to take a moment to pause. Like, literally stop, because sometimes we get so wrapped up in being called out, and so wrapped up in the next step, and so wrapped up in the what's next, and how am I gonna change it, and what do I need to learn, and what does it need to look like, that we actually don't reflect on the reasons why we feel called out.

[00:09:54] So, I want you to ask yourself, what is making me feel called out right now? What is the emotion that this is bringing up? What are the thoughts that are coming from that? What sort of... Feelings are coming from me feeling called out. Is it because the content that I have put out has hit a nerve? Is it the fact that you're recognizing behaviors or patterns that you weren't before or that you'd rather not acknowledge?

[00:10:30] What is it within that? So, okay. I just listened to that podcast episode, and by God, that really hit me. It hit me so hard, and I really want to do something with that information. I want to take that information, and I want to do something with it, but we need to understand why you're feeling called out in the first place.

[00:10:49] So, If that is, taking a moment to pause, asking yourself why you feel called out, what that, what that's bringing up, what's happening in your body at that point, even when you're listening to the podcast, you know, what's going on in your body, what's the emotions that are being brought, brought up, where can you feel it most as soon?

[00:11:07] Is it in your chest, is it in your legs, your arms, your head, your throat, wherever it is in your body, really connect to that emotion, connect to that feeling, and understand it, understand why it's showing up, because it's coming up for a reason, right? It's coming up because the subconscious is ready for you to listen.

[00:11:24] The subconscious only brings up things that we're ready to, to look at. And when we're not ready to look at, it doesn't come up. It happens a lot with my clients and we have to work through it slowly. So, really understanding why it's coming up. What does that look like? Recognising maybe the patterns or behaviours that you feel like, Oh my god, she's found me out.

[00:11:47] Has she been birdwatching through her binoculars through my office window? And write them down. Write them down, because the first step of change is awareness. We want to bring awareness to that. Now, you [00:12:00] might not know how to solve it right now, and that's completely okay. You might need a container, like my 1 to 1 mentorship, and that's completely okay.

[00:12:08] You might need something else, but you won't know how to move forwards if you are feeling called out if we haven't reflected on it. So, self awareness is the first step here. Yes, okay, the celebration of the growth. But the first step is that self awareness. So spend some time, stop, pause, understand where the feelings are coming from, where they're living in your body, what thoughts are coming on around it, what sort of emotions is it evoking, how is it making you feel.

[00:12:36] And then ask yourself, what story am I putting on this? Am I putting on the story that it's never going to happen to me because now she's feel, she's made me feel called out? Or, is it putting on the story, oh my freaking god, she's made me feel called out, what do I do next? How do I move forwards? This feels amazing because I've now seen something that might be the catalyst to my success.

[00:13:01] So, have a look where you're coming from. Are you coming from that scare city mindset, where you listen to a podcast and then you contract in and you think it's never gonna change? Or are you listening to a podcast and going, Wow, she really called out some of my behaviours then. She really called out some of my feelings then.

[00:13:17] Okay, where do I go next? This is exciting. I get to know and understand myself more. I know which camp I'd rather be in. I know which camp you'd rather be in. So really having a look where we, where we pull that from and what you make that mean about you, what you make that mean about anything in the industry.

[00:13:35] And I think that's really important to focus on with any content, not just mine, not just my podcast, but with anyone who's putting anything out there, what stories are you putting on that for yourself? How are you making that feel? How, what are you making that mean? Because they're not. They're, I mean, they might be writing it for you, but they don't know you.

[00:13:55] They don't know that your name's Frida. God knows why that name just came into my head. They don't know that your name's Frida, and, you know, they probably don't know exactly who you are, but you're feeling called out about it because a lot of people are going through it. You know, all of the things that I talk about in my podcast connect so deeply to that one person's ear that I'm in.

[00:14:16] But it's connecting to another hundred person's ears. people's ears that I'm in. So, really understanding what that looks like for you. Step two, give yourself grace and give yourself so much compassion and what I call self soothing. Because for me, that, we, we never get to that point, we never have that moment where we self, self Self soothe, that is so hard to say.

[00:14:48] Self soothe. And we need that when we're doing the mindset work. Soothing is solving. You know, if we have that within us, if we have that gentleness [00:15:00] around that, if we have the gentleness of the uncomfortable, if we have the gentleness around the the Feeling called out. If we have the gentleness around the trigger, we can move through it quicker.

[00:15:15] Because actually bringing in that grace and bringing in that compassion, and feeling that, that self soothing for, for where you are right now, is going to make you move through it quicker than being hard on yourself. than being like, for God's sake, that podcast, yes, she spoke to me and I'm still not frickin doing it and this is never gonna happen for me and I am an absolute failure and I'm a letdown and I'm stupid and I'll never do this and I'm not a good business owner and I'll never be in six figures.

[00:15:44] I know you have those thoughts, so don't allow yourself, don't allow your ego or whatever part is taking you there. I do a lot of parts work within my one to one container. Whatever part is taking you in there, it's just It's just trying to protect you. It's just trying to protect you because you feel uncomfortable.

[00:16:02] You've been made to feel uncomfortable. You've made yourself feel uncomfortable from listening to the podcast, so it's just trying to protect you. So if we can bring in that gentle, if we can bring in that grace, if we can bring in that compassion, speak to yourself as if you were five years old, three years old, one year old, whatever it is for you, have that grace and compassion.

[00:16:23] And remember that Growth is a frickin journey. I will never stop growing. I will never stop learning about myself. I work through things for myself all the time, and I love that. You will never stop that. You will never get to a place where you're like, I'm complete. I am done. I have worked through everything.

[00:16:42] Everyone has their own pace. Treat yourself with kindness as you navigate these feelings because you'll actually move through them quicker. Every emotion, is not good or bad. Anger is not bad and happiness is not good. They're emotions. There's no freaking labels on them. We just feel one side more than we do the other.

[00:17:04] We feel anger or sadness or frustration or hurt more than we probably feel joy and happiness. There is no good or bad emotion. If you allow yourself to actually feel the emotion, rather than your ego taking you off on this story, you'll get through the emotion quicker. So bring yourself grace and compassion.

[00:17:24] The next step I want you to really move into is openness. And I've spoke about this in the podcast already. The possibility that feeling called out is an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself. I'll say that again. The possibility that feeling called out is an opportunity for learning and improvement.

[00:17:51] So, actually, okay. I've been called out, I've celebrated the growth, the fact that I'm in discomfort. I've really had that self [00:18:00] reflection with grace and compassion. Now, I'm in the space, because I've got through those emotions and now I can see clearly, now I'm in the space where I can actually connect to the possibility of improvement.

[00:18:14] What, what needs to happen next? You know, the content that resonates the most is often the content that can make the most significant impact on your life and business. The content that resonates the most is most often the most impactful if you were to take that on and do something with it. And that's with anything, with the podcast, with a YouTube video, with a piece of content that you read, with a story.

[00:18:43] I know so many of you screenshot my stories, use the prompts, use the story. Like, the content that's resonating with you the most, If you took that on and actually worked through whatever that's bringing up, that's gonna help you probably the most because it's the deepest for you. It's the one that you go, wow, okay, what do I do with this now?

[00:19:03] So that's where the openness comes from. Don't see it as that constriction that I spoke about a while ago. See it as that openness. See it as like a, okay, okay, she's brought this into my reality, thank you so much. You know, one of my clients was like, you call me out in the best possible way. I'm constantly called out by you, but I fucking love it.

[00:19:25] And I love that because that shows just how open she is to moving through. Things that are holding her back. You know who you are if you're listening, I love you. Um, but you know like that, that power in that is just muah, chef's kiss, I love it so, so much. So, if you've had a little time to kind of write down, pause, ask yourself why is this hitting a nerve, where's my emotions, where's it coming from, and you've had grace with that, then start to write it down, okay?

[00:19:56] What, how, what did that resonate, what resonated with me the most? What needs to change the most for me? What would that look like if I actually took on what Becca said in this podcast, and did something with it, rather than listening to the podcast feeling like you can fucking change the world, and then forget that you've listened to the podcast five minutes later, and go back to the same old thing that you've been doing that you've been called out for.

[00:20:18] Hmm. I know. I know. Um. Like, what are those next steps? Which kind of takes me into my last section, which is the actionable steps. So I would write down, get it on black and white, get it out of your head. What resonated so much? What was that reflection that mirrored my actions and behaviors? What actions and behaviors or thoughts and feelings do I want to change?

[00:20:41] What does that look like? And then start putting the action steps in, you know. I, you've identified where that area is by me calling you out. That's what I'm here to do. That's what my content is there for. It's to create awareness around the problems that you're having or create awareness around the transformation that you want.[00:21:00]

[00:21:00] Those are my two content pillars. You know, that's how I step into my content with authority as well in the middle. So have a look at what it's brought up. What has it brought up? Is it the. Has it brought up an awareness around a problem that you've got, or has it brought up an aware amount around a transformation that you, that you want and you crave that you haven't yet reached?

[00:21:21] Both are fine. And then have a look where you'd like to make the changes. Those small, actionable steps, those micro, micro steps, the manageable tasks. And create a plan to address it. Progress is made one step at a time. You are not going to solve the world from listening to one podcast. And, you know, a lot of my clients who come to me say like, Bec, I thought I was doing the work by listening to podcasts and books and I was becoming very self aware, but the work that you do within your one to one container is frickin next level.

[00:21:55] And I know it is. Like, the subconscious work that we do is... Next freaking level. So it's what you do with that. Is that support? Is that investing in me? Is that investing in another strategy that you need? Or is that investing in time? Is it investing in a personal trainer? Is it, it doesn't even have to be investing.

[00:22:15] Is it taking more time out to go for a walk? Like, where is it in your vicinity? And do you need support with that? Fine, if you do, and if you don't, how are you going to support yourself to move through the trigger or the call out? Or the mirror that you've been reflected to within that piece of content.

[00:22:33] So, let's wrap up. If you've ever found yourself feeling called out by content on this podcast, any content that I put out on stories, posts, wherever else I am in the world, or any other coach, business owner, person, mentor, whoever it is, it's a natural part of the growth process. Embrace the discomfort.

[00:23:01] Bring in that grace and compassion for yourself. And use it as an opportunity to evolve and to thrive. Okay? Step one. Celebrate yourself for being in this discomfort. Step two, self reflection. Step three, grace and compassion and that kindness for yourself. Step four, being open to what's next from the mirror.

[00:23:29] And step five, your actionable steps. I hope this helps. And I hope the next podcast that you listen to that I put out there where you go, Wow, she's really freaking speaking to me. I want you to go and do this. And I actually want you to tell me how you found it. Because I'm here for you to make moves. I'm here for you to grow as a person.

[00:23:52] Grow as a business owner. Grow as a CEO. And that's why I wanted to do today's podcast episode. I love you with all my [00:24:00] heart. Thank you so much for tuning in again. And I'll see you in the next episode. Mwah!

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